According to iloveIndia.com FRIENDSHIP has different definitions for different people. For some, it is the trust in an individual that he / she won't hurt you. For others, it is unconditional love. There are some who feel that friendship is companionship. People form definitions based on the kind of experiences they have had.
My definition of FRIENDSHIP is a relationship that entails trust, responsibility, compatibility and comfort that goes beyond LOVE. I easily get hurt when my "supposedly" called friends do not honor the friendship that we have. I would rather have one friend who is a true friend than have lots of them but none of them care...
For most of my failed friendships, money has always been the issue. Second is distance and incompatibility follows as third. Let me share with you reasons why I ditch "friends".
1. I have a friend of 7 years, I am the godmother of his son. Whenever I go to Manila, I always make an effort to see him and so with other friends. One time, he borrowed a thousand pesos from me just when I was about to ride an elevator leading to my hotel room after a night out with him and some friends. I readily doled out the amount with an agreement that he will pay it on his next payday. Payday came, then another one then another one. His first alibi was he used said amount to pay for the immunization of his kid, next alibi was he was low on cash, after that, never heard from him. I reminded him of his debt but whenever he or I sets date for payment, nothing is heard of him...then 3 months later I got tired. Yeah, it maybe just a few hundreds, what hurts me is that this person doesnt even honor a word he says thereby hurting me in the process. My principle with money is if you owe me, however small the amount is, you HAVE to pay me because the only reason I gave it to you, is because you ASKED! It helped you in some way, the least you could do is PAY it!
2. Next ditched friend is the girlfriend of my friend who promised to pay me as soon as we get back home the goods she bought which we swiped on my card while on another town . Weeks passed and payment has not been completed. When I asked for the cash she owed me ( aside from the use of card, she borrowed cash on that trip)just when I was about to go on another trip, alibis came one after the other. Not even an apology was given, and my trip was botched because of cash shortage.
Those are just examples of conflicts resulting to failure of friendships, there are also friends who are just there when they have a need from you, otherwise you wont even hear from them. Some friendships with real people wane because of distance. I have lots of friendships that waned because of this, and I dont blame them. When you are apart, tendency is you meet other people, depend on the new ones and grow apart..this are friendships that will just last in your memory...but hard to nurture anymore. Friends come and go, but to truly have real friendship depends on the both of you, if one dishonors the meaning of it, then its not real friendship anymore. So tell me who your friends are and I will tell you if they are real or not...
